怎么样成为一个更好的交谈者

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All right, I want to see a show of hands: how many of you have
unfriended someone on Facebook because they said something offensive
about politics or religion, childcare, food?

All right, I want to see a show of hands: how many of you have
unfriended someone on Facebook because they said something offensive
about politics or religion, childcare,food? And how many of you know at
least one person that you avoid because you just don’t want to talk to
them?

Y-you’re like hitler,but even Hitler cared about Germany or something.

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(Laughter)

You know, it used to be that in order to have a polite conversation, we
just had to follow the advice of Henry Higgins in “My Fair Lady”: Stick
to the weather and your health. But these days, with climate change and
anti-vaxxing, those subjects – are not safe either. So this world that
we live in, this world in which every conversation has the potential to
devolve into an argument,where our politicians can’t speak to one
another and where even the most trivial of issues have someone fighting
both passionately for it and against it, it’s not normal. Pew Research
did a study of 10,000 American adults, and they found that at this
moment, we are more polarized, we are more divided,than we ever have
been in history. We’re less likely to compromise, which means we’re not
listening to each other. And we make decisions about where to live,who
to marry and even who our friends are going to be, based on what we
already believe. Again, that means we’re not listening to each other. A
conversation requires a balance between talking and listening, and
somewhere along the way,we lost that balance.

-Rick,what about the reality we left behind? -What about the reality
Hitler cured cancer,Marty?The answer is don’t think about it.

  1. “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.”
  2. “A lot of companies have chosen to downsize, and maybe that was the
    right thing for them. We chose a different path. Our belief was that
    if we kept putting great products in front of customers, they would
    continue to open their wallets.
  3. “The cure for Apple is not cost-cutting. The cure for Apple is to
    innovate its way out of its current predicament.”
  4. “Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit
    them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.”
  5. “Pretty much, Apple and Dell are the only ones in this industry
    making money. They make it by being Wal-Mart. We make it by
    innovation.”
  6. “To turn really interesting ideas and fledgling technologies into a
    company that can continue to innovate for years, it requires a lot
    of disciplines.
  7. “You can’t just ask customers what they want and then try to give
    that to them. By the time you get it built, they’ll want something
    new.
  8. “It’s not about pop culture, and it’s not about fooling people, and
    it’s not about convincing people that they want something they
    don’t. We figure out what we want. And I think we’re pretty good at
    having the right discipline to think through whether a lot of other
    people are going to want it, too. That’s what we get paid to do. We
    just want to make great products.
  9. “It’s really hard to design products by focus groups. A lot of
    times, people don’t know what they want until you show it to them.”
  10. “So when a good idea comes, you know, part of my job is to move it
    around, just see what different people think, get people talking
    about it, argue with people about it, get ideas moving among that
    group of 100 people, get different people together to explore
    different aspects of it quietly, and, you know – just explore
    things.”
  11. “Innovation has nothing to do with how many R&D dollars you have.
    When Apple came up with the Mac, IBM was spending at least 100 times
    more on R&D. It’s not about money. It’s about the people you have,
    how you’re led, and how much you get it.”
  12. “I’m as proud of what we don’t do as I am of what we do.”
  13. “Quality is more important than quantity. One home run is much
    better than two doubles.”
  14. “We have always been shameless about stealing great ideas.”
  15. “Real artists ship.”
  16. “The system is that there is no system. That doesn’t mean we don’t
    have process. Apple is a very disciplined company, and we have great
    processes. But that’s not what it’s about. Process makes you more
    efficient. But innovation comes from people meeting up in the
    hallways or calling each other at 10:30 at night with a new idea, or
    because they realized something that shoots holes in how we’ve been
    thinking about a problem. It’s ad hoc meetings of six people called
    by someone who thinks he has figured out the coolest new thing ever
    and who wants to know what other people think of his idea. And it
    comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t get on
    the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking about
    new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can
    concentrate on the things that are really important.”
  17. “Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people
    how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they
    didn’t really do it, they just saw something. It seemed obvious to
    them after a while. That’s because they were able to connect
    experiences they’ve had and synthesize new things. And the reason
    they were able to do that was that they’ve had more experiences or
    they have thought more about their experiences than other people.”
  18. “Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the ones who think
    differently. While some may see crazy, we see genius.”
  19. “Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me …
    Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful…
    that’s what matters to me.”
  20. “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to
    avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are
    already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. Stay
    hungry. Stay foolish.”
  21. “And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t
    get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking
    about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that
    you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
  22. “What I’m best at doing is finding a group of talented people and
    making things with them. I respect the direction that Apple is going
    in. But for me personally, you know, I want to make things. And if
    there’s no place for me to make things there, then I’ll do what I
    did twice before”
  23. If I look at myself and ask, ‘What am I best at and what do I enjoy
    most doing?’ I think what I’m best at is creating sort of new
    innovative products.
  24. It probably is true that the people who have been able to come up
    with the innovations in many industries are maybe not the people
    that either are best skilled at, or, frankly, enjoy running a large
    enterprise where they lose contact with the day-to-day workings of
    that innovative process. Dr. Land at Polaroid, he’s a perfect
    example.
  25. If anybody’s going to make our products obsolete, I want it to be
    us.

And how many of you know at least one person that you avoid because you
just don’t want to talk to them?

Now, part of that issue to technology. The smartphones that you all
either have in your hands or close enough that you could grab them
really quickly. According to Pew Research, about a third of American
teenagers send more than a hundred texts a day. And many of them, almost
most of them, are more likely to text their friends than they are to
talk to them face to face. There’s this great piece in The Atlantic. It
was written by a high school teacher named Paul Barnwell. And he gave
his kids a communication project. He wanted to teach them how to speak
on a specific subject without using notes. And he said this:”I came to
realize…” “I came to realize that conversational competence might be
the single most overlooked skill we fail to teach. Kids spend hours each
day engaging with ideas and each other through screens, but rarely do
they have an opportunity to hone their interpersonal communications
skills. It might sound like a funny question, but we have to ask
ourselves: Is there any 21st-century skill more important than being
able to sustain coherent, confident conversation?”

Life is effort.I’ll stop when I die!

(Laughter)

Now, I make my living talking to people: Nobel Prize winners, truck
drivers, billionaires,kindergarten teachers, heads of state, plumbers. I
talk to people that I like.I talk to people that I don’t like. I talk to
some people that I disagree with deeply on a personal level. But I still
have a great conversation with them. So I’d like to spend the next 10
minutes or so teaching you how to talk and how to listen.

Well,we can’t all be raised like reptiles by a mentally ill scientist.

You know, it used to be that in order to have a polite conversation, we
just had to follow the advice of Henry Higgins in “My Fair Lady”: Stick
to the weather and your health. But these days, with climate change and
anti-vaxxing, those subjects —

Many of you have already heard a lot of advice on this, things like look
the person in the eye,think of interesting topics to discuss in advance,
look, nod and smile to show that you’re paying attention, repeat back
what you just heard or summarize it. So I want you to forget all of
that. It is crap.There is no reason to learn how to show you’re paying
attention if you are in fact paying attention.Now, I actually use the
exact same skills as a professional interviewer that I do in regular
life.So, I’m going to teach you how to interview people, and that’s
actually going to help you learn how to be better conversationalists.
Learn to have a conversation without wasting your time, without getting
bored, and, please God,without offending anybody.We’ve all had really
great conversations. We’ve had them before. We know what it’s like. The
kind of conversation where you walk away feeling engaged and inspired,
or where you feel like you’ve made a real connection or you’ve been
perfectly understood.There is no reason why most of your interactions
can’t be like that.So I have 10 basic rules. I’m going to walk you
through all of them, but honestly, if you just choose one of them and
master it, you’ll already enjoy better conversations.
Number one: Don’t multitask.
And I don’t mean just set down your cell phone or your tablet or your
car keys or whatever is in your hand. I mean, be present. Be in that
moment. Don’t think about your argument you had with your boss. Don’t
think about what you’re going to have for dinner. If you want to get out
of the conversation, get out of the conversation, but don’t be half in
it and half out of it.
Number two: Don’t pontificate怎么样成为一个更好的交谈者。.
If you want to state your opinion without any opportunity for response
or argument or pushback or growth, write a blog. Now, there’s a really
good reason why I don’t allow pundits on my show: Because they’re really
boring. If they’re conservative, they’re going to hate Obama and
foodstamps and abortion. If they’re liberal, they’re going to hate big
banks and oil corporations and Dick Cheney. Totally predictable. And you
don’t want to be like that. You need to enter every conversation
assuming that you have something to learn. The famed therapist M. Scott
Peck said that true listening requires a setting aside of oneself. And
sometimes that means setting aside your personal opinion. He said that
sensing this acceptance, the speaker will become less and less
vulnerable and more and more likely to open up the inner recesses of his
or her mind to the listener. Again, assume that you have something to
learn.Bill Nye:”Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you
don’t.” I put it this way: Everybody is an expert in something.
Number three: Use open-ended questions
In this case, take a cue from journalists. Start your questions with
who, what, when, where, why or how. If you put in a complicated
question, you’re going to get a simple answer out. If I ask you, “Were
you terrified?” you’re going to respond to the most powerful word in
that sentence, which is “terrified,” and the answer is “Yes, I was” or
“No, I wasn’t.” “Were you angry?” “Yes, I was very angry.” Let them
describe it. They’re the ones that know. Try asking them things like,
“What was that like?” “How did that feel?” Because then they might have
to stop for a moment and think about it, and you’re going to get a much
more interesting response.
Number four: Go with the flow.
That means thoughts will come into your mind and you need to let them go
out of your mind. We’ve heard interviews often in which a guest is
talking for several minutes and then the host comes back in and asks
aquestion which seems like it comes out of nowhere, or it’s already been
answered. That means the host probably stopped listening two minutes ago
because he thought of this really clever question, and he was just bound
and determined to say that. And we do the exact same thing. We’re
sitting there having a conversation with someone, and then we remember
that time that we met Hugh Jackman in a coffee shop.And we stop
listening. Stories and ideas are going to come to you. You need to let
them come and let them go.
**Number five: If you don’t know, say that you don’t know. **
Now, people on the radio, especially on NPR, are much more aware that
they’re going on the record,and so they’re more careful about what they
claim to be an expert in and what they claim to know for sure. Do that.
Err on the side of caution. Talk should not be cheap.
Number six: Don’t equate your experience with theirs.
If they’re talking about having lost a family member, don’t start
talking about the time you lost a family member. If they’re talking
about the trouble they’re having at work,don’t tell them about how much
you hate your job. It’s not the same. It is never the same. All
experiences are individual. And, more importantly, it is not about you.
You don’t need to take that moment to prove how amazing you are or how
much you’ve suffered. Somebody asked Stephen Hawking once what his IQ
was,and he said, “I have no idea. People who brag about their IQs are
losers.”Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
Number seven: Try not to repeat yourself.
It’s condescending, and it’s really boring, and we tend to do it a lot.
Especially in work conversations or in conversations with our kids, we
have a point to make, so we just keep rephrasing it over and over.Don’t
do that.
**Number eight: Stay out of the weeds. **
Frankly, people don’t care about the years, the names,the dates, all
those details that you’re struggling to come up with in your mind. They
don’t care. What they care about is you. They care about what you’re
like, what you have in common. So forget the details. Leave them out.
Number nine: This is not the last one, but it is the most important
one. Listen.

I can not tell you how many really important people have said that
listening is perhaps the most, the number one most important skill that
you could develop. Buddha said, and I’m paraphrasing, “If your mouth is
open, you’re not learning.” And Calvin Coolidge said, “No man ever
listened his way out of a job.”Why do we not listen to each other?
Number one, we’d rather talk. When I’m talking, I’m in control.I don’t
have to hear anything I’m not interested in. I’m the center of
attention. I can bolster my own identity. But there’s another reason: We
get distracted. The average person talks at about 225 word per minute,
but we can listen at up to 500 words per minute. So our minds are
filling in those other 275 words. And look, I know, it takes effort and
energy to actually pay attention to someone, but if you can’t do that,
you’re not in a conversation. You’re just two people shouting out barely
related sentences in the same place.You have to listen to one another.
Stephen Covey said it very beautifully. He said, “Most of us don’t
listen with the intent to understand. We listen with the intent to
reply.”
**One more rule,number 10, and it’s this one: Be brief. **

-Obviously,at some point,the Gazorpians became so evolved that they
replaced females with birthing machines.The resultant lack of
distraction and hen-pecking allowed them to focus entirely on war,so
they bombed themselves back to the Stone Age,and now they just fight
with each other over fake [Bleep] with sticks and rocks all day long.
-You think it’s efficient to get rig of woman? -You ever see a line for
the men’s room?

(Laughter)

A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain
interest, but long enough to cover the subject. — My Sister

Oh, I get it. The old behind-every-great-man Amazon twist.

are not safe either. So this world that we live in, this world in which
every conversation has the potential to devolve into an argument, where
our politicians can’t speak to one another and where even the most
trivial of issues have someone fighting both passionately for it and
against it, it’s not normal. Pew Research did a study of 10,000 American
adults, and they found that at this moment, we are more polarized, we
are more divided, than we ever have been in history. We’re less likely
to compromise, which means we’re not listening to each other. And we
make decisions about where to live, who to marry and even who our
friends are going to be, based on what we already believe. Again, that
means we’re not listening to each other. A conversation requires a
balance between talking and listening, and somewhere along the way, we
lost that balance.

All of this boils down to the same basic concept, and it is this one: Be
interested in other people.You know, I grew up with a very famous
grandfather, and there was kind of a ritual in my home.People would come
over to talk to my grandparents, and after they would leave,my mother
would come over to us, and she’d say, “Do you know who that was?She was
the runner-up to Miss America. He was the mayor of Sacramento. She won a
Pulitzer Prize. He’s a Russian ballet dancer.” And I kind of grew up
assuming everyone has some hidden, amazing thing about them. And
honestly, I think it’s what makes me a better host. I keep my mouth shut
as often as I possibly can, I keep my mind open, and I’m always prepared
to be amazed, and I’m never disappointed.You do the same thing. Go out,
talk to people, listen to people, and, most importantly, be prepared to
be amazed. Thanks.

My life has been a lie! God is dead! The government’s lame! Thanksgiving
is about killing Indians! Jesus wasn’t born on Christmas! They moved the
date! It was a pagan holiday!

Now, part of that is due to technology. The smartphones that you all
either have in your hands or close enough that you could grab them
really quickly. According to Pew Research, about a third of American
teenagers send more than a hundred texts a day. And many of them, almost
most of them, are more likely to text their friends than they are to
talk to them face to face. There’s this great piece in The Atlantic. It
was written by a high school teacher named Paul Barnwell. And he gave
his kids a communication project. He wanted to teach them how to speak
on a specific subject without using notes. And he said this: “I came to
realize…”

No. I’d say,given what we’ve been through,that I was right the whole
time and any epiphanies about gender politics were a projection of your
feminine insecurity.

(Laughter)

This microscope reveals things beyond comprehension.

“I came to realize that conversational competence might be the single
most overlooked skill we fail to teach. Kids spend hours each day
engaging with ideas and each other through screens, but rarely do they
have an opportunity to hone their interpersonal communications skills.
It might sound like a funny question, but we have to ask ourselves: Is
there any 21st-century skill more important than being able to sustain
coherent, confident conversation?”

The young eat the old if you let them,Jerry.

Now, I make my living talking to people: Nobel Prize winners, truck
drivers, billionaires, kindergarten teachers, heads of state, plumbers.
I talk to people that I like. I talk to people that I don’t like. I talk
to some people that I disagree with deeply on a personal level. But I
still have a great conversation with them. So I’d like to spend the next
10 minutes or so teaching you how to talk and how to listen.

I was zuckerberging people before Zuckerberg’s balls dropped.

Many of you have already heard a lot of advice on this, things like look
the person in the eye, think of interesting topics to discuss in
advance, look, nod and smile to show that you’re paying attention,
repeat back what you just heard or summarize it. So I want you to forget
all of that. It is crap.

That’s…humbling and flattering.

(Laughter)

And that’s how I took my storefront into the forefront of the (up)?
front.

There is no reason to learn how to show you’re paying attention if you
are in fact paying attention.

So,as they say in Canada,pace oot!

(Laughter)

Well,La-di-da.

(Applause)

Pride cometh before the fall.

Now, I actually use the exact same skills as a professional interviewer
that I do in regular life. So, I’m going to teach you how to interview
people, and that’s actually going to help you learn how to be better
conversationalists. Learn to have a conversation without wasting your
time, without getting bored, and, please God, without offending anybody.

Listen,you have my words as a caregiver.

We’ve all had really great conversations. We’ve had them before. We know
what it’s like. The kind of conversation where you walk away feeling
engaged and inspired, or where you feel like you’ve made a real
connection or you’ve been perfectly understood. There is no reason why
most of your interactions can’t be like that.

It’s like the N-word and the C-word had a baby and it was raised by all
the bad words for Jews.

So I have 10 basic rules. I’m going to walk you through all of them, but
honestly, if you just choose one of them and master it, you’ll already
enjoy better conversations.

To get wriggledy wriggedy wrecked,son!

Number one: Don’t multitask. And I don’t mean just set down your cell
phone or your tablet or your car keys or whatever is in your hand. I
mean, be present. Be in that moment. Don’t think about your argument you
had with your boss. Don’t think about what you’re going to have for
dinner. If you want to get out of the conversation, get out of the
conversation, but don’t be half in it and half out of it.

What does a rapist look like exactly,Beth? Is it a Slavic man wearing a
denim jacket with a patchy beard and the scent of cheap champagne waft
over his blister-pocked lips?

Number two: Don’t pontificate. If you want to state your opinion without
any opportunity for response or argument or pushback or growth, write a
blog.

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(Laughter)

Don’t hate the player,hate the game,son.

Now, there’s a really good reason why I don’t allow pundits on my show:
Because they’re really boring. If they’re conservative, they’re going to
hate Obama and food stamps and abortion. If they’re liberal, they’re
going to hate big banks and oil corporations and Dick Cheney. Totally
predictable. And you don’t want to be like that. You need to enter every
conversation assuming that you have something to learn. The famed
therapist M. Scott Peck said that true listening requires a setting
aside of oneself. And sometimes that means setting aside your personal
opinion. He said that sensing this acceptance, the speaker will become
less and less vulnerable and more and more likely to open up the inner
recesses of his or her mind to the listener. Again, assume that you have
something to learn.

Take it easy. This is a blessing in disguise.

Bill Nye: “Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don’t.”
I put it this way: Everybody is an expert in something.

Pssh. White-people problems,Morty.

Number three: Use open-ended questions. In this case, take a cue from
journalists. Start your questions with who, what, when, where, why or
how. If you put in a complicated question, you’re going to get a simple
answer out. If I ask you, “Were you terrified?” you’re going to respond
to the most powerful word in that sentence, which is “terrified,” and
the answer is “Yes, I was” or “No, I wasn’t.” “Were you angry?” “Yes, I
was very angry.” Let them describe it. They’re the ones that know. Try
asking them things like, “What was that like?” “How did that feel?”
Because then they might have to stop for a moment and think about it,
and you’re going to get a much more interesting response.

All right,third time’s the charm.

Number four: Go with the flow. That means thoughts will come into your
mind and you need to let them go out of your mind. We’ve heard
interviews often in which a guest is talking for several minutes and
then the host comes back in and asks a question which seems like it
comes out of nowhere, or it’s already been answered. That means the host
probably stopped listening two minutes ago because he thought of this
really clever question, and he was just bound and determined to say
that. And we do the exact same thing. We’re sitting there having a
conversation with someone, and then we remember that time that we met
Hugh Jackman in a coffee shop.

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(Laughter)

So safe,so comfortable,so Shoney’s.

And we stop listening. Stories and ideas are going to come to you. You
need to let them come and let them go.

ghoulish overkill

Number five: If you don’t know, say that you don’t know. Now, people on
the radio, especially on NPR, are much more aware that they’re going on
the record, and so they’re more careful about what they claim to be an
expert in and what they claim to know for sure. Do that. Err on the side
of caution. Talk should not be cheap.

Yeah,I’d like to get a 10-piece McNugget and a bunch of the Szechuan
sauce. Like,as much as you’re allowed to give me.

Number six: Don’t equate your experience with theirs. If they’re talking
about having lost a family member, don’t start talking about the time
you lost a family member. If they’re talking about the trouble they’re
having at work, don’t tell them about how much you hate your job. It’s
not the same. It is never the same. All experiences are individual. And,
more importantly, it is not about you. You don’t need to take that
moment to prove how amazing you are or how much you’ve suffered.
Somebody asked Stephen Hawking once what his IQ was, and he said, “I
have no idea. People who brag about their IQs are losers.”

I’ll make it up as I go.

(Laughter)

Oh,there’s not enough room for all my genius,so I’m leaving you with my
fear of wicker furniture,my desire to play the trumpet,my tentative
plans to purchase a hat,and six years of improv workshops. Comedy comes
in threes.

Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.

Always wait for permission to feel accomplishment.

Number seven: Try not to repeat yourself. It’s condescending, and it’s
really boring, and we tend to do it a lot. Especially in work
conversations or in conversations with our kids, we have a point to
make, so we just keep rephrasing it over and over. Don’t do that.

Employee of the month,ladies and gentlemen.

Number eight: Stay out of the weeds. Frankly, people don’t care about
the years, the names, the dates, all those details that you’re
struggling to come up with in your mind. They don’t care. What they care
about is you. They care about what you’re like, what you have in common.
So forget the details. Leave them out.

Isotope 322. This stuff’s powerful,Morty,it makes Isotope 465 look like
Isotope 317.

Number nine: This is not the last one, but it is the most important one.
Listen. I cannot tell you how many really important people have said
that listening is perhaps the most, the number one most important skill
that you could develop. Buddha said, and I’m paraphrasing, “If your
mouth is open, you’re not learning.” And Calvin Coolidge said, “No man
ever listened his way out of a job.”

Save it for the Semantics Dome,E.B. White.

(Laughter)

I don’t do magic,Morty,I do science. One takes brains,the other takes
dark eye liner.

Why do we not listen to each other? Number one, we’d rather talk. When
I’m talking, I’m in control. I don’t have to hear anything I’m not
interested in. I’m the center of attention. I can bolster my own
identity. But there’s another reason: We get distracted. The average
person talks at about 225 word per minute, but we can listen at up to
500 words per minute. So our minds are filling in those other 275 words.
And look, I know, it takes effort and energy to actually pay attention
to someone, but if you can’t do that, you’re not in a conversation.
You’re just two people shouting out barely related sentences in the same
place.

The reason anyone would do this is,if they could,which they can’t,would
be because they could.

(Laughter)

-Because I don’t respect therapy,because I’m a scientist. Because I
invent,transform,create,and destroy for a living,and when I don’t like
something about the world,I change it. And I don’t think going to a
rented office in a strip mall to listen to some agent of averageness
explain which words mean which feelings has ever helped anyone do
anything. I think it’s helped a lot of people get comfortable and stop
panicking,which is a state of mind we value in the animals we eat,but
not something I want for myself. I’m not a cow. I’m a pickle — when I
feel like it. So…you asked. -Rick,the only connection between your
unquestionable intelligence and the sickness destroying your family is
that everyone in your family,you included, use intelligence to justify
sickness. You seem to alternate between viewing your own mind as an
unstoppable force and as an inescapable curse. And I think it’s because
the only truly unapproachable concept for you is that it’s your mind
within your control. You chose to come here,you chose to talk to
belittle my vocation,just as you chose to become a pickle. You are the
master of your universe,and yet you are dripping with rat blood and
feces. You enormous mind literally vegetating by your own hand. I have
no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy,the same way I’m
bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about
repairing,maintaining,and cleaning is it’s not an adventure. There’s no
way to do it so wrong you might die. It’s just work. And the bottom line
is,some people are okay going to work,and some people…well,some people
would rather die. Each of us gets to choose.

You have to listen to one another. Stephen Covey said it very
beautifully. He said, “Most of us don’t listen with the intent to
understand. We listen with the intent to reply.”

So,to be clear,I sometimes reference the geopolitical complexities of
the topic which is not the same as going to an anti-Semitic place.

One more rule, number 10, and it’s this one: Be brief.

But there comes a time in every man’s life when he must choose the
foundation on which his legacy will be built. One of compromise or one
of blood.

[A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain
interest, but long enough to cover the subject. — My Sister]

-No,because I need a living organism coated in gibble snake bile to
attract a shmooglite runner. -Wait,what’s happening? -Use that
confusion,Jerry. It will make you wriggle more like an abandoned
newborn.

(Laughter)

澳门新葡萄京娱乐,Cosmic apotheosis wears off faster than salvia.

(Applause) All of this boils down to the same basic concept, and it is
this one: Be interested in other people.

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You know, I grew up with a very famous grandfather, and there was kind
of a ritual in my home. People would come over to talk to my
grandparents, and after they would leave, my mother would come over to
us, and she’d say, “Do you know who that was? She was the runner-up to
Miss America. He was the mayor of Sacramento. She won a Pulitzer Prize.
He’s a Russian ballet dancer.” And I kind of grew up assuming everyone
has some hidden, amazing thing about them. And honestly, I think it’s
what makes me a better host. I keep my mouth shut as often as I possibly
can, I keep my mind open, and I’m always prepared to be amazed, and I’m
never disappointed.

You do the same thing. Go out, talk to people, listen to people, and,
most importantly, be prepared to be amazed.

Thanks.

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